Helga » Сб июн 06, 2009 13:15
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Tips for Success With the Cabeceo
An 8 step tutorial from Alejandra Todaro
1. Have a plan and be disciplined. Know ahead of time who you want to dance with for each type of music.
2. Have a fallback position. Pick a second and a third choice ahead of time, and keep them in mind.
3. Try to quickly identify the music of the tanda, and then immediately begin to stare intently at your first choice for that type of music.
4. Do NOT take you eyes off that person, even for one second. (If you have a history, the rest is easy, because he or she will probably already be looking back when they hear the music).
5. If no eye contact is returned, wait a bit. If you sense the person is aware of you, but is looking elsewhere, immediately switch your stare to choice number two, and repeat the process.
6. If eye contact is made, any sign of recognition will work. Among the milongueros and milongueras, this is usually nothing more than a glance of a second or two, or maybe a slight nod, or a cutting of the eyes toward the floor.
7. If you happen to make eye contact by mistake with someone you don’t want to dance with, show no reaction at all, and look away quickly!
8. Once the dance offer has been accepted, both partners should maintain eye contact while the woman remains seated, and the man crosses the floor and stands in front her.
9. Only when you are standing face to face, eye to eye, should the woman get up to dance. (This prevents crossed signals, where the intended partner may be sitting in the line of site, but one or two rows back).
10. When the dance is finished, the man always walks the woman back to her table, and then returns to his own.
(You may have noticed that although these tips are from Alejandra, they apply equally to both women and men. While the cabeceo is one of the traditional codigos of tango, it is completely "gender neutral". A woman doesn't need to sit and wait for a man to come over to ask her to dance, because the opportunity to either make or accept offers is exactly the same for both men and women.)
The cabeceo is a powerful tool, but be careful. Once I casually smiled and nodded at a well-dressed milonguero across the room. To my surprise, he appeared a moment later at our table, ready to dance with Alejandra! The codigos are complex, and I had essentially contracted a dance for Alej without either of us even knowing about it. So the wisdom that says everyone sees everything in a milonga is especially applicable here. The milongueros have spent so many years watching each other, that they seem almost telepathic.
Post Script from Miss Tango:
Ladies, this has been stated before. Under all circumstances remain in your seat until the gentleman has come to collect you and is standing right in front of you! This will avoid the embarrasment of you possibly thinking the cabeceo is for you, and either being publically denied, which means slinking back to your seat or offending the other party, in which case both of the other dancers will just roll their eyes, and think you a stupid tourist, but the gentleman being a gentleman will dance with you anyways, but then it is more of a courtesy dance...which is what you really do not want.
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